This is not a party

Last month, I had been to a soyem in one of my relatives. After Quran khuwani, when everyone were free from Maghrib prayers, I was watching the family members of person who had died. Everybody was shattered with pain, tired, heavy hearted, exhaust and suffering from the sleeplessness. I was thinking what would I do if I was in their place? How would I endure? Well, I asked ALLAH for their patience. Dinner time was drawing near so I decided to leave as soon as possible.

Meanwhile, many people started to visit for condolences that were not present at Quran khuwani. As I approached to my relatives to say them goodbye, nobody was letting me leave and very forcibly I agreed to eat very little. The menu was Biryani, qorma and zarda with the colorful topping of gulab jamun and cham cham. The menu seemed like I was invited in a dawat or something, which was very disappointing and unfit. Anyways, very hesitantly I took some biryani, feeling very ashamed that the people who were really in need of rest at that time, serving dinner and busy in hospitality. My appetite had already died as I saw them cry with grief.

Then I saw a woman who was sitting right in front of me at dastarkhuwan. She was searching for a better piece of chicken in biryani and then she asked somebody to bring some warm serving of biryani. I was  shocked to see the courage of that women. How could people reach to that height of shamelessness. It was extremely unethical and very unfortunately, it is happening in our society. The people who need condolence used to busy in arranging things like a party and we show very immoral behavior toward them.

Originally in old days, the concept was totally different. The relatives used to bring meal and serve the mourners, to sympathize the family, to lessen their burden. But now, we practise totally opposite.

This is very shameful trend gaining ground. We should realize the grief who are suffering, who lost their loved one. And instead of eating as a party, we should lessen their burden and support them.