I am very fond of reading queries in magazines and newspapers. They let me know about the problems, circumstances and thinking of the people. Some are about friends, some of them are about education and most of them are related to family problems. I read a query some days before which compel me to write on this, the problem of most of the girls. I don’t know what I should call it whether “gender discrimination” or “shamelessness”.
Our “respected” brothers have every authority to anything anywhere no matter respectful or disrespectful. I must use here the word “respected” because they give their utmost respect to their sisters. They give security they deserve i.e. never want us to go outside, never let us do what we want to, never ever tolerate us talking to some other guy, very anxious about our pardah and do their level best to keep us protected and isolated. And when they come to know that their sister is in contact with a guy, they start to oppose it tooth and nail because their honor has been extremely disgraced. And from then on, every restriction they order even it is a matter of doing something very legal. Even when it comes to their academy and education of their interest, they speak volumes in this matter. In short, they have full right to poke their nose wherever they want.
On the other hand, the same “respected” brother (who had been trying to be very pious) have right to talk and give their precious time to somebody else’ sisters (their gfs). They meet often with their girlfriends, want to spend time together and hate the brother of their gfs because he is as “respected” as he himself. And try to be pretending an 'angel'.
In simple words, a boy himself talks whole night with some girl (with someone’s sister, I must remind), but his blood is up when he sees his own sister is doing the same. A boy can have more than one gf but never ever ready to hear if his sister has a sincere one. A boy can very happily give expensive gifts to his gf but it is a big trouble when his sister accepts the same from some guy. A boy is very active in inquiring his sister’s cell phone but they turned violent is his sister ever try to inquire his one and try to show his mirror.
For everything sister does is extremely sinful and disgraceful although he himself does the same. No matter what he himself does thousand times over but when it comes to sisters, their mouth is always two steps ahead of their mind. By doing this they try to be the most pious men in the world. According to their mentality, their duty is just limited to keep their eyes fix on this matter. Their narrow mindedness never allows them to think beyond this matter.
PRETENDING to be pious never serve their purpose. If a boy really wants to be a RESPECTED brother, he must look inside, he should ask his conscience who he really is himself, he must improve himself before pointing someone out.
And whoever is very anxious and restless about pointing others out and improving others instead of him, is actually indirectly show their own deeds because “great talkers are never great doers”.
